Andy Stanley talked about how a lot of what comes out in our emotions from our marriage comes from within us and not necessarily from our partner. He encourages us that instead of monitoring our spouses behaviors or actions we should look inward.
Andy gave us four simple steps that we could apply to encounters in our relationships:
- Before you speak, think about what you are actually feeling.
- Identify the emotion by name.
- The say it out loud.
- If appropriate, tell your partner how you feel.